How do You Know they're The One?

Everyone is looking for that significant other that they could spend the rest of their lives with. However, with the number of people you come across in life, how do you know they’re ‘the one? Love can be trial and error, and we may not always get the right one immediately.

In life, the only constant is ‘change’. It’s not all the time the outcome is roses, like Daniell Brown from the book, Dress Whites, Gold Wings who loved three women throughout his life: Ann, Eleanor, and Becky. It took Dan a long time before he found Becky, the person he’d spend the rest of his life with. To make sure you find the right partner who can love you just as much as you love them, let me give you a few key points to look for to ease the hardship.

1. Do they make you feel comfortable?

They must make you feel comfortable. Do you feel safe around them? Do you feel that you can be yourself with no fear? The sense of calm as you stay together in silence, even if you both aren’t doing anything, is important to note.

2. Do they communicate, respect your thoughts and feelings?

Communication is always the key to a stable relationship. Are you able to openly say your innermost thoughts to that person, and are they willing to listen? Are they willing to understand? If respect and communication are established, problems would be easily solved, and the two of you can tackle obstacles together. 

3. Are you able to trust them without a doubt?

Is your heart calm regardless of the fact they’re not by your side? If so, this means that they have given you such comfort that they’ve earned your trust. With this, there will be no anxiety or doubts even when you’re not together.

When it comes to how you know they're the one, it’s important to discern whether or not you’ll be safe and comfortable. Trust is important, and this means that you must provide these three points to your partner as well. It doesn’t matter if you two are as different as Yin and Yang, if they can accomplish these points, you might have just found yourself a soulmate.

by Daniell M. Brown